Saturday, June 14, 2008
Happiness
I came home on Sunday morning 2am feeling a tinge of happiness welling within me. Its been a long week and i had spend the entire Saturday night doing my part time job as a demolition specialist. Stepping into my humble 5 room flat i cannot help but feel the relieve and familiar comfortable feeling in this walls i call home. The things making me feel this way could be my bed, my laptop, food and etc... but the most important thing must be the faces of my family members, yeah even my brothers that still have their faces stuck in the computer screen and the thought of seeing my girlfriend later in the morning.Today, i came across this article in the Sunday times "I so want to be happy" written by Sumiko Tan. In it i was all bout happiness and her personal views on the topic. When i read it, i can't help but have the nostalgic feeling that i had for the earlier morning.
One of the ways in determining happiness is mainly due to 50% genes and 10-15% social and outside influence. This may very well mean that whether a person is happy or not is most of the time is up to the individual make up. Some people are easily happy and contend while other people tend to be more pessimistic in nature and most of the time scowl. Well this maybe proven true however i tend to think there might be other better ways we can determine true happiness.
First of all i think we all agree that happiness cannot be measured by the amount of wealth and material riches one person have. Because being humans we can never be satisfy with our wants, we can never be contended with what we have and are always seeking more and better things. Some people say that they are happy and content when they have money, but look around you and you will find not all the rich and famous lead happy lives. Maybe the way to true happiness is to appreciate what you already have and counting your blessings but the way I see it, this is true, however, how many people can really say that they have enough, especially since we are living in a modern society where everything is so competitive.
"Happiness is not something you can feel every moment of the day.
Happiness come in small doses, so just be grateful for that.
It's pointless to wish for a big happy ever after because it won't happen
Perhaps happiness is overrated"
This is one of the paragraph written in the article i written earlier, reading this I cant help but feel perhaps this is then the true face of happiness.
One can never be happy all the time as happiness come and return in smaller doses each time. Take for example my favorite drink, matcha (Japanese green tea), the rich and assorted taste of tea powder that really melts u away. Every time when i get to go to a Japanese restaurant, i never fail to order one of these ecstasy. there was one day where i feel exceptionally greedy and i ordered two cups of matcha. The result was the first cup was all so delicious and i was happy, however when it come to the second, i feel like my face will turn green like the drink if I continue to drink.
In our lives, there are always ups and downs, u get sad, but that's the time where u have to stay optimistic about it and bounce back to find back happiness. However if you are always on cloud 9, u start to get numb and bored, that is where the feeling of happiness start to fade away and sometimes even give way to anxiety and doubt.
"The rainbow comes after the storm"
People seek happiness all the time, in the process, u might make yourself more unhappy instead, however don't you think that it is through all the unhappiness that u experience that u learn to appreciate and be grateful, then when u find the happiness u seek, u find yourself gaining something else and that is the true happiness.
To all those who think that life's a bitch. Happiness is just round the corner =).
